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A different ending

Tomorrow is the fifth anniversary of my state-sanctioned big gay wedding. It was beautiful. I hadn’t expected it to feel different from my outlaw wedding in August, 2011, but it did, and it continues to feel different. Legal marriage is more powerful, which is probably … Read more

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Gay

I was given these small doors as part of an art installation and I’m to write (or draw) my coming out story on them. I’m not sure what my coming out story is. Is it when you know? Is it when you tell? Is it … Read more

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How Margaret Thatcher taught me not to be an asshole

I dislike Margaret Thatcher, and it’s interesting to me when people argue, But she was a woman! Shouldn’t we celebrate the fact that she was a woman in power?

No. There is nothing to celebrate about ruthless power whether it’s male or female.

And that’s … Read more

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The Bride in White

The bride appears, suddenly, from between her father and stepfather, and advances down the aisle. But really it’s the moment she rounds the corner and stands in full view that is so exquisite. In her white princess dress. The veil well back on her hair. … Read more

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I wrote this love letter to the way we’ll be

She showed us her gorgeous wedding dress, and she and Mary got rapturous about tulle. (I’m quite pleased to say that I know what tulle is when I’m looking at it, although I have no idea what it is when you’re casually telling me you … Read more

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Licensed

I dreamed all night about bombs outside the courthouse. About the same boring haters with their same boring signs. We speak for Jesus! And we — I mean, Jesus — Jesus hates you! I dreamed about arriving too late. I dreamed about losing my wallet … Read more

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With champagne and shit

We may be getting married in Seattle. The interesting thing about that sentence is that only the geography is in question. What a notable period in time. Here. In a newborn marriage equality state.

To be honest, I still can’t quite believe it. Mary has … Read more

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Uterine

Election day was all about the uterus. I fidgeted, armed with Jeanette Winterson’s memoir, in the surgery waiting room, while the doctor cut into my wife’s. I tried not to think about scalpels. Or election returns. Or voter intimidation. Or apathy. I tried not to … Read more

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Baby diapers

I was a single parent for a long time. Much longer than I wanted to be. And also while I was married. My being a single parent doesn’t have anything to do with gun control. Nothing. There is no correlation there at all. Whatsofuckingever.

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Stop eating your face

I’m forbidden from eating chewy candy now. Which, I’m pretty sure, is the definition of heartbreak. Actually, all chewy food has been discouraged. No raw vegetables. No bagels. No gum. TMJ has declared war on anything except soft foods. I’m now going to eat as … Read more

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