Tag Archives: marriage equality

A different ending

Tomorrow is the fifth anniversary of my state-sanctioned big gay wedding. It was beautiful. I hadn’t expected it to feel different from my outlaw wedding in August, 2011, but it did, and it continues to feel different. Legal marriage is more powerful, which is probably … Read more

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I can see more from out here

I thought girls actually used pencils to darken lines beneath their eyes. The same pencils we used to take bubble tests. That seemed so brave to me. Like something a pirate would do. Lined up in the hallway, waiting to march out to the playground, … Read more

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Love Story, redrafted

The day marriage equality was approved by voters in Washington State, my wife and I were watching the returns online. She was lying in bed, recovering from surgery. I kept calling out numbers, and crying. It was 2012, when I still thought Mitt Romney and … Read more

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I just can’t decide how much humanity you deserve

In the new age of acceptable fascism, I guess the thing I find most troublesome is how familiar it feels. I stood in Dachau Concentration Camp as a child. I looked at all the photos and the ovens. I stood there as a five year … Read more

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Gay

I was given these small doors as part of an art installation and I’m to write (or draw) my coming out story on them. I’m not sure what my coming out story is. Is it when you know? Is it when you tell? Is it … Read more

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The fluid spectrum

On that glorious morning when the Supreme Court ruled for Marriage Equality, Mary and I spent much of the day commenting on how rad our friends are as joyful posts and rainbows lit up social media. And then, late in the day, one of my … Read more

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May Day

The week that Mary and I started dating, I flew to New Orleans for a literary festival. On my second day there, the concierge delivered two letters from her. We talked on the phone for hours every day. I walked her voice around the city.… Read more

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Don’t lean!

I told you before about power and canoes, but I don’t want you to think that I learned everything about sharing power that trip because I certainly didn’t. Riding around with Mary on her scooter this Sunday evening, I was reminded how often I … Read more

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I’ll speak for me

I am in the fortunate position of not having a social media history of cruel, dickbag observations I have made to the world at large. In my brain, however, I am not so fortunate. I remember a long heinous diatribe about single mothers, for instance, … Read more

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How Margaret Thatcher taught me not to be an asshole

I dislike Margaret Thatcher, and it’s interesting to me when people argue, But she was a woman! Shouldn’t we celebrate the fact that she was a woman in power?

No. There is nothing to celebrate about ruthless power whether it’s male or female.

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